Forgiveness II

Carrying on from yesterday, forgiveness.

When I said forgiveness is for you, so you may heal, it is somewhat healing for the person you are forgiving as well. Take it or leave it, they can choose to think they “got away with it” or “walked all over a vulnerable person” or they can “do what they want because others will forgive them for it!” People like that exist. There will be a small percentage of people you forgive for wrong doings who will feel they can come back and do more wrong to you or try to do wrong to you, and that it will be fine because after all, you are a good person, a forgiving person, and you will forgive them again. I feel that you shouldn’t put yourself in a place where others feel they can walk all over you. Forgiving someone isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of restraint, a sign of strength, mercy and love.

Many of the people whom you forgive will be grateful that you forgive them. Most people don’t enjoy knowing they hurt someone who is innocent. Humans are humans, despite what they do, and humans have emotions. Sometimes anger and rage over come their other emotions, but when anger and rage can be felt, so can compassion and love. They may or may not know the real reason you are forgiving them is because you want to feel better. Yes, there are going to be people who won’t accept your forgiveness because they think you’ll have to obsess over what they have done or what you have done.

It’s a shame this small population gets so much notice. Trust me when I say these people are a very small part of the population, and that makes the rest of us wondering whether or not we want to mingle with others. Don’t let those that keep you down or assume that you owe them more than forgiveness, get to you. Forgiveness is a gift that you don’t deserve, and when you receive it, you should feel grateful.

People change. Situations aren’t just for the worst or forever. You won’t feel bad forever.

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