Where Do Lies Come From?

Why do people lie? Better yet, why do they lie to total strangers who have just known them for a few days? Why do people think that lying about someone is a kewlie form of revenge? Do they think that honestly bothers someone? Yes, there’s that retaliation that it must bother me, because here I am, blogging about it. Right. It bothers me so much that I’m going to post what they did and how they did it.

For the past week or so, an ex-friend has been emailing and IMing, possibly texting and calling someone she knows from a message board. Someone who was friends with her for a while there, or this person praised her extreme methods of copyright infringement as well as intellectual theft (nothing on her site is originally her’s. She has the site of your typical 12 year old; celebrity layout, but she’s nearly fifty years old), and the ex-friend interpreted this as friendship and trust. So she started talking smack about me about a week ago.

Mostly, the ex-friend tells people outrageous lies about me. She tells them I abuse my children, I’m too busy being a slut and sleeping with her man to take care of my children properly. Where she’s getting this information is a mystery to me. I assume she’s making it up because I’ve certainly never expressed any of this to her in any way. Her “man” happens to be my brother-in-law. Yes, I’ve fed the guy, washed his clothes, given him a place to sleep at times, but I’ve certainly never jumped in the sack with the guy as a favor for any of this.

The lie that I abuse drugs and alcohol and lie about it is going around again, thanks to her. If this stranger hadn’t come to me and told me the things the ex-friend has told them, I never would have known this. The person who came to me said they felt my ex-friend was telling these same lies, in private, to many people on a popular band message board. How sneaky. Tell it in private messages so that I can’t find it in google? Wow. What a great friend she was. I remember making so many enemies on the web because of her. Because I defended her. Because I told them I knew she wasn’t talking about me behind my back. To find out now, after all this time, that she is is rather heartbreaking.

I also was informed that she’s telling people where my blog is, my email address, and distributing pictures of me to the members of this board. I contacted a few of her random friends, and they confirmed that she did talk smack about me, and gave them photos of me, though only one of them really believed it. Mostly she tells them that I am the one talking bad about them, and I say that I am going to hurt them or hunt them down in the real world. One woman told me my ex-friend said I was crazy and psycho and I was going to hurt her in the real world. She looked at my blogs and decided I wasn’t, and only lightly humored my ex-friend after that.

I feel my ex-friend has a lot of personal demons and she needs help. Unfortunately, I can’t be the one who drags her to a therapist every week or cram pills down her throat every day. That’s a decision only she can make. Too bad she’s choosing to lie about me and to my loved ones. Thank you for those of you who choose not to believe her.

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