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It Never Gets Any Easier

I found this while I was looking through my Flickr account for something else:

ETA: to the “person” who commented: ‘it’s been two months….dude get over it!’ I would like to point out that death is something that people just don’t ‘get over’. There is no set time for grieving and there is no set time to be ‘over’ a child’s death. I don’t think I’m supposed to be ‘over it’ in two months. My nephew has been dead nearly a year, and I still cry when I stumble upon his pictures. My brother-in-law’s mother has been dead 12 years and he still cries over her death. When you love someone, there is no limit to how long you can miss them. Especially when their deaths were caused from a terrible disease that has cursed all of human existence. Oh, and no, your ‘comment’ wasn’t approved, and signing another name to it didn’t hide who you were–I searched for your IP, and back in May you were all sympathies. It’s my blog. I will grieve as long as I want and I will blog about it as long as I want. You don’t have to read it, even if you’re just here to drop and run via EntreCard. So now I’ve banned your IP from commenting. If you want to apologise, I may unban your IP from commenting. For now you can still view my site and drop your precious EC and get that 1 credit per day you get from my blog. But I can go into mega-bitch mode and ban you all together.

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6 Comments »

  • Sheila Sultani (10 comments) said:

    People can be such asses – I don’t think anyone EVER, EVER gets over the loss of a child. I mourn for you every time I pass your blog – I haven’t been able to stop thinking about how you must feel. I lost my daughter 10 years ago and can still barely stand to look at her pictures without crying. Time makes it a little easier. Helps you to remember more of the good times than the bad. Helps you smile more than cry. Frankly, I’ve been suprised that you have managed to post and function at all – You’re much stronger than I was – I hid in my house and didn’t see or speak to anyone for months. You should approve the comment, even show it on your post and then let everyone have at em.
    Take Care -
    Sheila

    - 19 July 2009 at 7:25 am
  • Mamaflo (5 comments) said:

    Grief is different for each person, some grieve harder, some grieve longer, some don’t grieve publicly at all, it’s all internal, done behind closed doors.
    It’s just when grief interferes with daily life after a few months then it’s time to look into professional help. Sure there are times when I think about a loved one and grief wells up so deep within me that I have to cry and I cry hard and long.

    - 19 July 2009 at 10:02 am
  • Stacie (4 comments) said:

    Who ever told you to get over the death of a child is cold and heartless! People grieve in different stages and for some they never get over it. It’s a difficult thing. I still cry and it’s been two years since I had a miscarriage. Ughhh I am sorry that person was insensitive! I better stop before I write a book. LOL Hope you have a fantastic weekend.

    - 19 July 2009 at 10:29 am
  • Sandi (17 comments) said:

    Some people just do things to get a rise out of others. I don’t know why but there are very hateful people out there. I used to post on a public forum. I was diagnosed with cancer during my time there, left for awhile and came back. I went into remission and of course I had lots of people asking how I was. One day a man there began to single me out, posting comments while I wasn’t there about how my cancer came back and I was going to die. When I was there he would post pictures of actual tumors (gross pics) just to I don’t know….get to me? I never understood. What I realized though is getting a response is what they want. They want to make you mad, see how much drama they can start. It’s the whole point. So what they said is meaningless because no one on this planet truly thinks you should get over a child’s death (or any other loved one for that matter) in 2 months. It would not be something I would EVER get over.

    - 20 July 2009 at 10:48 pm
  • Robin (12 comments) said:

    Hi Jamie,
    I am so sorry that person left you this rude comment. You never get over losing your own child. Your daughter is beautiful and I am sorry she is not with you right now. I believe she is watching over you though. I’m sure she misses you also and she will always be your precious daughter. My grandma died 9 years ago and I still cry and miss her dearly. We will always love them. God Bless you and do not let these people bring you down more. They are not worth it. I enjoy reading your blog, it is a interesting blog. Sometimes you are funny and I like that. Take good care and try to be happy again with your family and friends. You are right, It Never Gets Any Easier. I believe your daughter wants you to be happy. We never forget our loved ones who have gone before us. You will see her again one sweet day. :-)

    - 21 July 2009 at 1:39 pm
  • meso (1 comments) said:

    oh grieving is so difficult its not easy to lose someone… my nephews has been passed away 5 years ago but still her memories are still fresh especially her face before she died…it really hurts how a 4 months old suffered…my my my

    - 23 July 2009 at 2:20 am